Monday I woke up feeling sick, so I slept in an extra hour, meditated lying down (risky, I know) to prevent dizziness, purposely didn't get on the computer until after a shower and time outside with my journal. I did reply to a few emails and managed to get some laundry done, walk the dog, do groceries, but mostly it felt like a low-key go slow kind of day. I even made some medicinal tea (soy bancha ginger) and quinoa flake porridge to heal the intestinal upset, and found the time to make a nice supper.
The day went smoothly enoug, as I slowed down, took time to take care of myself. I even had the energy to try out a new red wine/rose sauce for chicken in spite of my lack of appetite. I just didn't push myself to 'get things done', and things happened at their own pace. I also lay for 20 minutes with my hubby's head in my arms at the end of the day, comforting him for a hard day - one of those where everything you do goes wrong - soothed his forehead, all the while thinking - because I took care of me today, I am in a healthy space to give out and take care of him.
I was in bed at 9:30 with a book, and slept deeply.
Then, bing, Tuesday morning I woke up and my energy was back. The headache and tummy ache were gone. I felt tons better. Ready to sort out my daughter's messy room (while she's travelling in Europe), do more laundry (my son is a bit overwhelmed with the laundry baskets piling up, as he's working). I got an agenda going, replied to emails, and sat down to write in my journal, all before 10.00 a.m.
Sometimes a good night's rest changes everything.
Also, when my heart is in a good space and I am gentle with myself, a healing presence is all I have to offer. When I rush out every night, leave them to reheat a frozen dinner, they can survive, but the love is not the same as in a home-cooked meal lovingly prepared.
I still want to do that whenever I can (at least 3 or 4 nights out of 7). And teach them to prepare healthy meals as well, of course.
The value of a calm, centered caretaker in the home, whether male or female, cannot be underestimated. I hope you dads at home that follow this blog will send me your own stories of how taking care of yourself helps you take care of your loved ones.
have a great day,